Yesterday I wrote a post about instances where sharing your dreams could delay success, and most people seemed to resonate with it.
And almost like a continuation, as I went about town running my errands today I had two interesting experiences.
And as I sat down to reflect on these experiences, the words that came to mind were simply this, ‘don’t let people that have no control over their tongues speak over you”
In the first instance, I overheard a conversation between women as I was walking by. The older-looking one was berating the younger-looking one for ‘being big’. I know.
A casual glance at the ‘big’ woman told me that she had possibly had just had a baby. And funny enough, in my opinion, she didn’t look as ‘big’ as the older woman was making out, not that it mattered if she was big!
I was honestly triggered, remembering all the comments people had said to me over the years after I had my babies.
Anyway, this older woman was relentless to a point of being awkward, telling her not to eat too much because you know why? She would get big and the baby would be skinny.
Don’t ask me how this is all related. The younger woman took it all quietly, but I could feel just how much the words were wounding her from where I was 🙁
And now to the 2nd instance. I was paying my bill at a grocery store, and it turned out that the system was down, so I could not use the rewards card for this particular store. I joked with the teller that this would have been the first time I actually got any rewards from this particular store. Then teller quickly pointed out how unlucky I was, lol.
I tell you, my spirit quickly rejected this particular thought, and I simply said to her,
“No, I’m blessed, not unlucky. Your system is the one with the problem.”
She came back again, more emphatically this time, and with some reasons accompanying the thought this time.
And again, I simply said, “No thank you, the problem is with your system, please don’t speak such over me.”
I kid you not, in the moment I wasn’t thinking much about what was happening, I just responded firmly yet kindly (I hope).
Normally I wouldn’t have said anything back to her, but I’ve been intentional about what I allow into my mind in the last few months, and so it was almost reflexive to block this kind of talk.
Now to the juice, other people will always have an opinion about you, true or untrue, but it’s up to you what you agree and disagree with.
Sometimes though, our thought patterns consist of whatever is not true, whatever is not noble, whatever is not pure or praiseworthy, and we, unfortunately, partner with every thought that sets itself above the knowledge of God.
We have been taught to reject ourselves so much so that we don’t blink when other people reject or speak death over us.
Now practically, here are some steps you can take to train your mind to be alert when such situations arise. I say ‘train’ because every day we step out we are stepping into the battlefield, hence the instruction to put on the armour of God.
Soldiers don’t train in the war, they train before they need to engage in battle, and are prepared at all times.
Athletes don’t just wake up and run marathons and get on fields, they train and condition themselves for months and even years.
- SATURATE YOUR MIND WITH THE WORD
This is the one sure way of knowing what God says about you, your future etc. Read the Bible daily, listen to sermons, listen to worship music.
Use the YouVersion App for daily devotions, I love this app! I literally open my eyes and dive into my devotions most mornings!
My favourite bands at the moment include Bethel, Planetshakers, We Will Worship and Hillsong.
2. MEDITATE ON THE WORD
Okay, this one took me a LONG time to work around. But meditating on the word is one way for it to come alive in your life. All those verses and words you read in part 1? Throughout the day be intentional about remembering what it is that you were reading, and ask the Holy Spirit to make it come alive for you.
How do you ask the holy spirit?
“Holy Spirit you are here with me, please make this word come alive for me.’
Simple right? Lol.
3. SAY THANK YOU
A lot of the time discontent and being down can be traced to losing focus of what we have, and moving towards comparison and perfectionism.
For example, most people will struggle with saying ‘thank you’ when complimented. Instead as a complimenter, you’ll receive rolling of the eyes, or a self-depreciating comment back. Sigh.
Next time someone gives you a compliment, say, ‘Thank you, I receive that.’ And see what happens.
Throughout your day look around you and if anything is praiseworthy, say thank you.
The only thing that we have control over in this world is us – our thoughts, emotions and actions.
There is power in the tongues, it holds power over life and death, so it’s time we paid more attention to what we let in from other people’s tongues.
Other people will always be there, sometimes trying to blame us for their shortcomings, or projecting what their view of perfection on us, but praise Jesus that we have a blueprint of who we are in the Word, and a helper in the Holy Spirit to lead and guide us to where we should go!
Hope this encourages you, comment and let me know if you’ve had experiences where you allowed to speak negative thoughts over you!