Over the years I’ve realized that being selective about whom I listen to is just as important as choosing what I listen to.
For the simple reason that receiving wise counsel is one of the best antidotes for making avoidable mistakes.
Here’s an experience that brought this post on.
I was scrolling through one of the social media platforms one day, and I read something.
Before I realized what was going on, I found myself thinking, ‘This is such terrible advice!’. But of course quite a few people were agreeing with the author of the said ‘advice’.
This got me thinking of the importance of having a filter through which you run information through, especially in the age that we are in.
Anyone can claim and sell anything on the internet, as long as they have access to a connection and a device.
So if you don’t have a filter it’s possible that you will end up spending money and developing mindsets that don’t help you reach your goals.
I’m in the business of giving other people advice too, so I hold myself accountable to the principles that I’m about to share too.
Why do they have the authority to speak on what they are speaking on? Do the knowledge they have come from years of study/practice, personal experience or it’s just head knowledge from a book?
It’s not impossible to give good advice without experience, but it makes someone vulnerable to making fatal assumptions.
For example, most of us have lots of advice before we get married or have kids 🙂 But once they live through the experiences, we quickly realize that there are no simple solutions to any of the issues in these areas.
This is because knowledge combined with experience has power, unlike just head knowledge.
So when receiving advice ask yourself, what authority does the originator have?
2. Who else has their information helped?
An indicator of good advice is the trail of changed lives it’s left in its wake. By this, I mean that if the advice is applicable not to just its source, but there should be other people that have been changed by it.
So if you are planning to follow someone, find other people that have been impacted by them.
And this shouldn’t be too hard, especially on the internet.
Check testimonials, reviews etc, and they’ll give you a good idea of whom you are dealing with.
3. Who is pouring into their lives?
This one is easy to overlook, yet it’s important. People become like who influences them, so if you don’t like their influences, then you should probably stay away from taking their advice.
An example of this one is how I went about choosing whom to listen to when it comes to social media marketing.
It came down to 2 people, and one was an avid fan of a teacher who’s methods, though effective, didn’t always sit well with me because of the delivery. And the other one had gentler influences.
Can you guess who I ended up picking?
So it’s super-important to align yourself with those people whose values align well with yours, and they have mentors and influences that you like too.
4. Are they consistent?
It’s easy to be intense over a short period of time, but long-lasting results come with patience and time.
If you are considering listening to someone, check their track record. Are they a new sensation or they’ve been at it for a while?
I’m wary of people promising instant wealth or even overnight success because I’m yet to see that.
Even with the best products in the market, some effort will need to go into a process because that’s just how life works.
So is your source of advice have proven consistency or are they unreliable in how they show up?
5. What’s their story?
I believe that a person’s journey impacts how they perceive the world and interpret events in their world.
This is important when choosing to take advice from them because advice coming from a place of pain, hurt or lack is bound to produce similar fruit in your life.
Knowing someone’s story also will also give you a good idea of the season of life that the advice can be applied to.
For example, as a busy woman, I’m probably better off taking hair advice from another busy woman having success because the recommendations will suit my lifestyle.
People that put themselves in the path of GREAT advice have a higher chance of not quitting their goals and avoiding making some mistakes.
So if you are looking to take advice for the different areas in your life, make sure it’s one that you can implement and will propel you.