Do ever find yourself wanting to live an authentic life yet feeling the pressure to conform and perform?
For as long as I can remember, I did what was expected of me in school, church and other social situations.
And while I wasn’t unhappy, I knew that I wasn’t using my voice.
Looking back, I think I behaved this way because I didn’t know I would be accepted for who I truly was, and I shrunk back to stop myself from making other people uncomfortable.
The Turning Point
A turning point came for me at the end of secondary/high school.
Instead of pursuing a ‘serious’ career like a Dr or Lawyer, I pursued journalism.
This shocked many people because I had been a straight-A student, so everyone expected me to go the ‘real’ career route. Heck, I’d even considered being a neurosurgeon at one point.
My Work Life
After university instead of getting a job as a journalist, I picked up my camera and decided to pursue professional photography even though I had no idea what running such a business would involve.
At this point, everyone thought I’d lost it for sure. I got advice from well-meaning people not to ‘waste’ a good education.
But I went on to do photography well and built a brand that connected well with my tribe.
Growing up I never even considered not relaxing my hair because the perception was that unrelaxed hair was unkempt.
But in 2012, after having my first child, something in me snapped and I cut it all off without consulting anyone but my hairdresser and my husband.
At the time I didn’t think I was ‘going’ natural or anything like that, I was just tired of the process of relaxing because my scalp couldn’t handle the chemical relaxer, and I thought I could save money by going this route, ha ha.
Because of that one decision, I ended up starting a group for women seeking to connect with other women on the same natural hair journey.
It quickly became a movement, and I believe it’s legacy will be felt for generations.
The Price of Non-Conformity
While it seems noble to ‘be yourself’ and to ‘live your passion’, in reality living this out is tough.
It requires an insane amount of courage because you don’t always get support or validation, especially in the beginning.
People fear what they don’t understand, so the resistance is real.
The road can also be a lonely one, especially if you aren’t connected with people on a similar path.
I was a full-time photographer, and I’ve now chosen to be a hair mentor, still working from home because I value time freedom and raising our kids (nothing against parents that choose a different path)
My little life experience has taught me that I don’t have to be chained to titles and roles in order to be happy or effective.
What matters the most for me is to ensure that I’m continually being renewed and partnering with God wherever He calls me.
Because where there are people, God intends to heal, renew and transform.
Some fun Facts about me
My husband and I are raising our 2 little guys in British Columbia, Canada. We love to have fun together as you can tell 🙂
- I’m a middle child born 7years after my older sister and after the death of my other sister
- I live in my housecoat/gown (it’s just so comfy)
- I love fruit, especially cherries
- I’m not quick or witty, more of the thinking type
- I enjoy rummaging through thrift stores when I have time